A lot of men communicate clearly. They just don't communicate the way you're expecting.
I see this in my own marriage. I'll say something that makes perfect sense to me — direct, literal, no subtext — and my wife will hear something completely different. She's listening for tone, implication, what I might mean beneath the words. I'm just... saying the words.
That's not a communication failure. It's two different operating systems trying to run the same program.
But there's another layer. Some men don't communicate clearly because they're not clear with themselves. They haven't figured out what they actually think or want, and so what comes out is vague — not because they're hiding, but because they're still processing. A lot of men process internally. They need to work something out before they can say it. A lot of women process externally — they figure it out by talking. Neither way is wrong, but when you don't know the difference, it looks like one person is withholding and the other is over-talking.
The fix isn't to force a man to communicate on your timeline. It's to understand his process, respect it, and create the conditions where he can get clear enough to share what he's actually found.
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